This is not about “how to prepare for marriage” or “how to meet your spouse”. This is to encourage single people to be single well, and to offer advice to married people on how to love and serve your single friends.
What or Where is your focus?
- Our hope should be in Jesus – not in another person or in a certain outcome
- Be careful that marriage/parenthood isn’t your sole focus.
- Focus on becoming more like Christ. No matter what happens, it’s a win-win. Whether you’re single or married, we all need to become more like Him.
- Watch your thoughts! There’s a fine line between dreaming and fantasy. Fantasy can be dangerous.
What are your concepts about life and yourself?
- Marriage isn’t a reward for good works. If you’re single, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you did something wrong. Of course, you may not be ready for marriage. The answer is still to become more like Him and He’ll reveal those areas to you.
What are your concepts about relationships and ministry?
- Surround yourself with a multi-generational community. We all need a Paul, a Barnabas and a Timothy in our lives.
- God has a ministry for you even today. Your ministry may change if you get married, but it doesn’t have to start when you get married.
- Gratitude goes a long way. No one is promised tomorrow. Be grateful for your life today. Why spend all your time pining for someone or something in the future? Live your life today.
Question: If you could go back in time and speak to your single self what advice would you give? You can leave a comment by clicking here.